Day One

I read the whole book yesterday and last night. Today I decided to start reading the companion to it called Women Power. Well in this book there is questions listed for you to have your husband answer and for you to read.

Now my husband does not know anything about this book, has never read it, never even read the jacket to see what its about nada nothing no clue what it even is about.. So he comes home from work and I refrain from being an ass and try to be nice even though im tired, hungry and need a mini break from Greyson. Well that went good. Next thing i handed him the notebook with the questions wrote out in and asked him nicely to answer the question so that I could learn from his answers.

Now back to why I said he knows nothing of this book.. He answered those questions exactly as Dr. L describes what men need. The answers to his questions are simple yet its something I have been lacking providing for him. For example one question asked what he wanted from me:
answer acceptance, understanding and trust.
Another question was what changes would you like to see in your wife:
answer:
Being more open
more interested in his "stuff"
being less critical

Sounds pretty simple doesnt it? Yet somehow I cant manage to do these things for him. and who knew a MAN would want his wife to be more open.. hmmmmm I guess all that stereotyping we women do about men dont feel this and this and this is just bullshit. In fact I think men feel just fine. The problem is that we women wont let them express these feeling because to us (even though this is what we claim while we are bitching to our girlsfriends we want) we cant see our husbands as humans who have feeling because in our minds thats not manly. Somehow we want the best of both worlds. We want a husband who is masculine, yet we expect him to be one of our girlfriends. I just realized this after reading this book in which she pointed this out to me! Of course I didnt come to this conclusion on my own.... i have been taught that men are assholes with no feelings.

Women have come to want to much of a man... well dare I say women are taught to want to much of a man. Something he is not capable of giving to us yet we demand but balk at the demands that they ask of us. We expect them to do every single thing we say, yet dont give them the same treatment in return. hmm whats wrong with that?

I learned something else today:

I am a NAG, let me type that again a NAG. I looked up the definition of this word today. Here is what it means just in case you women dont know.
nag (nag)

transitive verb nagged, nag′·ging

1. to annoy by continual scolding, faultfinding, complaining, urging, etc.
2. to keep troubling, worrying, etc.

1. to urge, scold, find fault, etc. constantly
2. to cause continual discomfort, pain, etc
   

noun

a person, esp. a woman, who nags

Yep total NAG. My husband has said this to me many times and replied with im not nagging you.Well guess what babe I was. Just didnt care to admit it. So my first goal is to stop nagging my husband.