The proper care and feedings of husbands

Whats this you say? What is this non sense you are speaking of.. well its a book... by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I have recently well say in the last month or so been talking to my friend Tracy about marriages. Tracy is one of those women who has her shit together when it comes to marriage. She is by far the best person to talk to about your marriage. In talking to her I have realized that I need to work on some things in me and then work on my marriage.

Right now in my opinion I dont have a happy marriage. Thus the reason for this book. I just picked it up today at the library along with a few other books of hers. I have to say I have read about 4 chapters and im impressed and shocked at the same time at how this book could have been written just for me. Its like she wrote it directly for me.

Im not anywhere close to the perfect wife. Im disrespectful and ungrateful to my husband. That in and of its self is mostly what makes my marriage the way it is right now. That and the fact that im bitchy, pessimistic, and a nag most of the time. Doesnt make for the best marriage. There are plenty of you out there who are just like me. In fact I think most women are like me and the women like Tracy are the exception. Im sure she has her days in her marriage just like the rest of us but I think they are few and far between and she never loses sight of the fact that her marriage is number one and she seems to know how to treat her husband.. A thing I tend to forget on a daily basis.. hell a minute basis who am i kiding.

So my quest is to improve my marriage. We are no where near the divorce thing although I have threw that term out there more than I care to admit to my husband and my friends. I use that term like its not a big deal, and try to use it as power. Im going about it the wrong way apparently as my marriage is nothing special and I say all the time how unhappy I am.

So its time to do something different. To step outside what is the norm for me, what is comfortable for me and change. I dont mean try to change my husband which I think I have tried and failed to do. I mean change myself. So this blog will be charting this progress among other things.

Now its off to read!